“I got the job!!” Mary exclaimed. She was really happy and for the first time in months, I actually saw her smile. The new position was everything she wanted; close to home, better pay, room for growth, a solid company, and only 40 hours vs. 60.
In the past year I’ve known her, she’s stated numerous times how she hates her job and hates the long commute. Those statements weren’t just idle words. I could tell by the emotion that it was something she felt deep inside.
As we talked about all the advantages of her new position I could visibly see her countenance improve. Mary commented that as soon as she gave her notice, her entire neck and shoulder area just relaxed. “I knew I was feeling this, but didn’t realize how much till I yesterday. I remember this feeling; THIS is normal”.
Mary went on to explain that at some point, you just realize this HAS to change. You can’t take it anymore. Once that happens, you have to make that change a priority. Finding a new job didn’t just happen. She looked diligently, searched online during the bus ride to/from work, stayed up late sending resumes…whatever it took.
The ride home was lively as we discussed how people often think “this” is all there is. “This” being commuting an hour to work, working weekends, not having any money, and being treated wrongly. It was refreshing to talk with someone else who realized there had to be more than just getting by and accepting what was. She knew there was something better; there had to be and she worked diligently to find it.
Most of the people I commute with complain about their job, their pay, and then go to sleep. Day after day, week after week, month after month, it’s the same old story. They have two hours a day to read a book, read about a new skill, revise their resume, or look for a job on their smartphone. Instead, they complain and sleep. “This” is all there is for them.
Mary is different. She didn’t accept this as being all there was. She had enough, made it a priority to change and persevered till it happened. Thank you Mary for stepping up, breaking the status quo, and sharing some great insights. Good luck in your new position!!