Just Ask

“Can I get you anything for your time?, I asked. “Absolutely not! I love talking about this and helping people” she said. I left my friend’s office totally wired from our meeting.

I’ve been revising my book manuscript and researching the myriad of publishing options. My friend had very successfully published a book several months earlier. I wanted to ask her how she did it, but each time I chickened out and decided to go “find my own” answers.  As often happens, too much research revealed more questions than answers.

So I finally just asked if she’d be willing to answer some of my questions. I didn’t want to be a bother, just needed some guidance. Notebook in hand full of detailed questions, I was ready to make the most of this special opportunity.

To my surprise, she spent well over an hour generously explaining every process. She answered all of my questions and more. I received exactly what I needed and all I did was ask.

I pride myself on getting things done. Cars, homes, computers, etc. the common mantra is “did it myself”.  Maybe it’s an only child thing or just being a man, but asking for help is not easy. I guess I don’t want to appear to be taking a ride on someone else’s experiences and being lazy. Course men are known for not asking for directions, so maybe it’s just how we’re wired.

This past experience showed me the power of “just asking” when I needed help. Of course, I didn’t just say “tell me how you did it”. I came totally prepared with meaningful questions and took copious notes.  Afterward, I went and applied everything I could immediately.

Next time I find myself a little lost or confused, I’m going to just ask for help. It’s much easier than going it alone and saves a lot of needless frustration. Sure, I’m still going to give it my best shot first, but I won’t flail so long before seeking a little assistance.

 

Preparing for What I’ve Requested

“I have an entertainment center, you want it?” Absolutely!  I said. I hung up the phone and eagerly began making room for it.  Moved the chair here, slid the couch over, got rid of a few unused items.  In short order, I had the perfect space for the entertainment center. I was excited and when my friend arrived, all that we had to do was unload it.

Recently I’ve been asking the powers above, “Where is my ______?”  I haven’t seen what I asked for and I’ve been patiently waiting. “Did you forget?” I’ll ask humorously.  Who hasn’t wondered where their “unanswered” prayers are? Personally, I’d like some GPS coordinates.

Course, whenever I start questioning above, I have to look at my own behavior and instantly saw an interesting pattern.  I’ll ask for something, give thanks for it, and then go on my merry way. So far so good; faith and letting go, I seem to have down.

However there is one thing I don’t do; prepare for the answered prayer.  What if I made “space” for the things I’ve asked for? What if I prepared for my requests to be answered and acted as if they were on their way or already here? If I was prepared, I could say “put that right here” and begin using it immediately. Rather than, “put that in the corner and I’ll get to it later”.

I’ve given people items and when I arrive at their house, it’s totally cluttered. You realize that what you gave them will probably be just be another piece of the pile. Personally, my first thought is “why would you ask, if you can’t even use it”.

On the flip side, I’ve given items to people who were incredibly thankful, were ready to receive it, and start using it while I’m there. They’re excited and ready to go.  Its feels so good giving to give to someone who is grateful and ready, I just want to give them more.

Hmmm, if I think like that and I’m just human then….….Yeah, I need to prepare for some answered prayers.