“Can I get you anything for your time?, I asked. “Absolutely not! I love talking about this and helping people” she said. I left my friend’s office totally wired from our meeting.
I’ve been revising my book manuscript and researching the myriad of publishing options. My friend had very successfully published a book several months earlier. I wanted to ask her how she did it, but each time I chickened out and decided to go “find my own” answers. As often happens, too much research revealed more questions than answers.
So I finally just asked if she’d be willing to answer some of my questions. I didn’t want to be a bother, just needed some guidance. Notebook in hand full of detailed questions, I was ready to make the most of this special opportunity.
To my surprise, she spent well over an hour generously explaining every process. She answered all of my questions and more. I received exactly what I needed and all I did was ask.
I pride myself on getting things done. Cars, homes, computers, etc. the common mantra is “did it myself”. Maybe it’s an only child thing or just being a man, but asking for help is not easy. I guess I don’t want to appear to be taking a ride on someone else’s experiences and being lazy. Course men are known for not asking for directions, so maybe it’s just how we’re wired.
This past experience showed me the power of “just asking” when I needed help. Of course, I didn’t just say “tell me how you did it”. I came totally prepared with meaningful questions and took copious notes. Afterward, I went and applied everything I could immediately.
Next time I find myself a little lost or confused, I’m going to just ask for help. It’s much easier than going it alone and saves a lot of needless frustration. Sure, I’m still going to give it my best shot first, but I won’t flail so long before seeking a little assistance.